Showing posts with label Honor. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Honor. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Potty Mouth Disease

IN PERSPECTIVE
By Bill Neinast

The Turner Classic Movie channel was the source of a relaxing evening last Wednesday.  The movie of the night was the 1946 classic, “The Best Years of Our Lives.”

Channel surfers 50 years old or younger probably would not have stayed on the channel as long as five minutes.  The dialogue was in a foreign language without English subtitles and the youngsters would not have been able to follow the story.

Occasionally something that sounded like English could be heard.  Every third word, however, was not followed by an expletive or description of a normal body function.  For more than two hours, no scatological terms beginning with a “D,” “S,” or “F” was heard.  Who among today’s youngsters could understand such simple, straightforward English?

The English used was not the only quaint feature of the movie.  The women were always fully clothed and wore dresses with hats and gloves when they went shopping.  The men were never seen in a shirt without a collar and most of the time they wore ties and coats.  Also obvious in their absence were baseball or “gimme” caps worn either with the bill in front or in back. 

The single car garages were entered on two strips of concrete with grass medians instead of solid expanses of concrete driveways serving two and three car garages.  One homeowner was even seen mowing his lawn with a small push-type reel mower.

There were also several scenes of military aircraft grave yards.  The movie was made less than two years after the end of WWII and scenes of those hundreds upon hundreds of bombers and fighters parked wing to wing awaiting demolition left a vivid impression of the tremendous service of the Greatest Generation.

“The Best Years of Our Lives” was viewed in juxtaposition with “August: Osage County.”  That recent movie was shot in modern English.  Unfortunately, Meryl Streep and Julia Roberts were cast as what can best be described as potty mouths.  They could not open their mouths without a flood of obscene words.

The worst part of that movie was sitting in an audience with youngsters under 50 years of age who considered the dialogue to be “good old’ English.  They have never known any other way of talking with others.  For some reason, each clause has to be emphasized with an expletive.  That is one of the tragedies of the modern American experience.

As mentioned in this column previously, the “worst” words or language I ever heard from my father’s mouth were “dang it” or “doggone.”  With that simple English, he was able to create and run a small business that vaulted him into, and kept him in, the upper class.

I am reminded, also, of a high school football game in Somerville in the mid 1940s.  I played left end for the Somerville Yeguas.  In one interscholastic meet, one of the players said, “damn,” or something similar.  The referee immediately whistled the game to a halt, called the 22 players on the field together, and gave a lecture on how there was no need for “real men” to lace their conversations with profanity.  

Today’s referees probably cannot recognize any words or comments as profane.  If they do, they would not dare take the foul mouthed individual to task.  To do so would risk both his job and reputation. Today, anyone who cannot converse with all those “aids” for emphasis is just another panty waist.

How and when we began to accept this tawdry language, even from the mouths of children, is hard to determine.  Some current movies with a WWII indicate that foul language was also the norm during that conflict.  My time in the service indicates that was not the case.

Although I did not enter active duty until the Korean conflict, many of my colleagues were WWII vets.  They used the English of my father, that is a severe “dangit‘ on rare occasions.

“The Best Years of Our Lives” was a portrayal of a genteel society.  Today’s “August: Osage County,” is at the opposite side of the scale.  It portrays a coarse society.

Genteel is defined as polite, refined, or respectable.  In the last century, the word was used in such senses as “of good social position,’‘ having the manners of a well-born person,’‘ or being “well-bred.”

Conversely, coarse is defined as crude or vulgar. 

So here’s the perspective.

Step into any gathering of youngsters today and listen to the conversation.  In a matter of seconds, you will realize that you are in the center of a coarse, crude, or vulgar crowd. In some instances, the females are bigger potty mouths than their male companions. 

Could the difficulty in finding genteel conversations be a reason for routinely watching the first half of the evening TV news being devoted to violent crime?

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

The National Anthem - Suggestions from the Battlefield on how to Sing it!

FROM A MARINE CORPS COLONEL IN AFGHANISTAN .

"SO WITH ALL THE KINDNESS I CAN MUSTER, I GIVE THIS ONE PIECE OF ADVICE TO
THE NEXT POP STAR WHO IS ASKED TO SING THE NATIONAL ANTHEM AT A SPORTING EVENT:

SAVE THE VOCAL GYMNASTICS AND THE PHYSICAL GYRATIONS FOR YOUR CONCERTS. JUST SING THIS SONG THE WAY YOU WERE TAUGHT TO SING IT IN KINDERGARTEN -STRAIGHT UP, NO STYLING. "SING IT WITH THE CONSTANT AWARENESS THAT THERE ARE SOLDIERS, SAILORS, AIRMEN AND MARINES WATCHING YOU FROM BASES AND OUTPOSTS ALL OVER THE WORLD.

DON'T MAKE THEM CRINGE WITH YOUR SELF-CENTERED EGO GRATIFICATION.
SING IT AS IF YOU ARE STANDING BEFORE A ROW OF 86-YEAR-OLD WWII VETS
WEARING THEIR PURPLE HEARTS, SILVER STARS AND FLAG PINS ON THEIR CARDIGANS AND YOU WANT THEM TO BE PROUD OF YOU FOR HONORING THEM AND THE COUNTRY THEY LOVE - NOT BECAUSE YOU WANT THEM TO THINK YOU ARE A SUPERSTAR MUSICIAN. THEY COULD SEE THAT FROM YOUR COSTUME, MAKEUP AND YOUR ENTOURAGE.

SING 'THE STAR SPANGLED BANNER' WITH THE COURTESY AND HUMILITY THAT TELLS THE AUDIENCE THAT IT IS ABOUT AMERICA, NOT YOU. AND PLEASE REMEMBER, NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE SUNG AS A NEGRO SPIRITUAL.

WE'RE GETTING A LITTLE WEARY OF THAT. FRANCIS SCOTT KEY DOES NOT NEED ANY HELP."


SEMPER FI

Monday, November 11, 2013

Texas One Ups Obama - Again!

Texas A&M Fly-by at Mississippi State Game

Since the sequester funding kicked in early this year, “Fly-Bys” at sporting events have been banned by the Obama Administration as a way to, in my opinion, punish the conservative public.  Not surprisingly, since that time Texas A&M has continued fly-bys at its home football games using volunteers flying vintage aircraft from the Commemorative Air Force or privately owned restored aircraft and experimental aircraft.  This last weekend (November 9,  2013) at the last home game for 2013 Texas A&M played Mississippi State.  The plane below did the pre-game fly-by during the National Anthem. 
  

At first blush, during the fly-by my thought was, “well I guess with the new budget deal and no debt ceiling, military fly-bys have returned.  It wasn’t until the end of the third quarter when the air crew was introduced did we learn that this was the ultimate in your face by Conservative Texans and Texas A&M.  The plane is not a US Air Force plane, it is owned by a private citizen and fellow Texan  H. Ross Perot, Jr. and was flown by one of his pilots with Texas Governor, Rick Perry sitting in the back seat as co-pilot!  God I love being a Conservative Aggie and living in Texas!

Gig Em!

Marc '72

Sunday, September 22, 2013

It Don't Cost Nuthin' to Be Nice. . . .


This story has probably been told and re-told, embellished and perhaps improved upon many times.  I got this from the internet so . . . . . let’s just call it a legend because Bear Bryant certainly is a legend.  Regardless of whether this story is true or not is irrelevant, however the message certainly is profound and one we all need to heed.

The message:

The lessons your mama taught you are right. It don't cost nuthin' to be nice. It don't cost nuthin' to do the right thing most of the time, even when it cost, it always cost less to keep your word than it does to lose your good name by breaking your word to someone.
Enjoy the Legend

So the legend goes like this . . .

At a Touchdown Club meeting many years before his death, Coach Paul "Bear" Bryant told the following story:

I had just been named the new head coach at Alabama and was off in my old car down in South Alabama recruiting a prospect who was supposed to have been a pretty good player and I was having' trouble finding the place.

Getting hungry I spied an old cinder block building with a small sign out front that simply said "Restaurant." I pull up, go in and every head in the place turns to stare at me. Seems I'm the only white fella in the place. But the food smelled good so I skip a table and go up to a cement bar and sit.  A big ole man in a tee shirt and cap comes over and says, "What do you need?"

I told him I needed lunch and what did they have today?

 He says, "You probably won't like it here, today we're having chitlins, collared greens and black eyed peas with cornbread. I'll bet you don't even know what chitlins are, do you?"(small intestines of hogs prepared as food in the deep South) I looked him square in the eye and said, "I'm from Arkansas, I've probably eaten a mile of them. Sounds like I'm in the right place." Everyone in the restaurant smiled as he left to serve me up a big plate. When he comes back he says, "You ain't from around here then?"

I explain I'm the new football coach up in Tuscaloosa at the University and I'm here to find whatever that boy's name was, and he says, "Yeah I've heard of him, he's supposed to be pretty good." And he gives me directions to the school so I can meet him and his coach.

As I'm paying up to leave, I remember my manners and leave a tip, not too big to be flashy, but a good one and he told me lunch was on him, but I told him for a lunch that good, I felt I should pay. The big man asked me if I had a photograph or something he could hang up to show I'd been there.

I was so new that I didn't have any yet. It really wasn't that big a thing back then to be asked for, but I took a napkin and wrote his name and address on it and told him I'd get him one. I met the kid I was looking for later that afternoon and I don't remember his name, but do remember I didn't think much of him when I met him. I had wasted a day, or so I thought.

When I got back to Tuscaloosa late that night, I took that napkin from my shirt pocket and put it under my keys so I wouldn't forget it.  Back then I was excited that anybody would want a picture of me.

The next day we found a picture and I wrote on it, "Thanks for the best lunch I've ever had."

Now let's go a whole bunch a years down the road. Now I'm back down in that part of the country scouting an offensive lineman we sure needed. Well anyway, he's got two friends going to Auburn and he tells me he's got his heart set on Auburn too, so I leave empty handed and go on to see some others while I'm down there.

Two days later, I'm in my office in Tuscaloosa and the phone rings and it's this kid who just turned me down, and he says, "Coach, do you still want me at Alabama?" I said, yes, I sure do.  And he says OK, “I will come”.

I ask, well son, what changed your mind?

His answer surprised me, "When my grandpa found out that I had a chance to play for you and I had to you no, he pitched a fit and told me I wasn't going nowhere but Alabama and wasn't playing for nobody but you. He thinks a lot of you and has ever since y'all met."

Well, I didn't know his granddad from Adam's housecat so I asked him who his granddaddy was and he said, "You probably don't remember him, but you ate in his restaurant your first year at Alabama and you sent him a picture that he has had hanging in that place ever since."

That picture's his pride and joy and he still tells everybody about the day that Bear Bryant came in and had chitlins with him since y'all met."

"My grandpa said that when you left there, he never expected you to remember him or to send him that picture, but you kept your word to him and to Grandpa, that's everything. He said you could teach me more than football and I had to play for a man like you, so I guess I'm going to."

I was floored. But I learned that the lessons my mama taught me were always right. It don't cost nuthin' to be nice. It don't cost nuthin' to do the right thing most of the time, but it costs a lot to lose your good name by breaking your word to someone.

When I went back to sign that boy, I looked up his Grandpa and he's still running his place, but it looks a lot better now; and he didn't have chitlins that day, but he had some ribs that would make Dreamland proud and I made sure I posed for a lot of pictures; and don't think I didn't leave some new ones for him, too, along with a signed football.

I made it clear to all my assistants to keep this story and these lessons in mind when they're out on the road. If you remember anything else from me, remember this. It really doesn't cost anything to be nice, and the rewards can be unimaginable.  ~ Coach Paul "Bear" Bryant